Dear Matron
I live in the UK and a year ago when I was 17 my mother
forced me to wear full schoolboy uniform including grey short trousers as a
punishment for misbehaviour. Since then I have been educated at home using
private tutors and have had to wear my school uniform and short trousers every
day including weekends. I am also taken out in school uniform for shopping
trips and doctor and dental appointments. Even though I appear a lot younger
than 17, I look too old to be still wearing shorts and it can be terribly
humiliating. Most schoolboys in the UK wear long trousers by the age of 11 so I
look like an older boy dressed like a little boy. Mother has also
re-instated bedtimes and I now have to
go to bed at 8.30 each night. I have protested that this is far too early for a
boy of 17 but she is adamant. My mother says that short trousers have made me
obedient and respectful and she plans to make me wear them for several more
years! Are other boys of my age kept in
short trousers and school uniform as a punishment? Do you think my mother is
right to treat me this way?
Michael
Dear Michael
Your mother is perfectly entitled to dress you this way.
As she is no doubt supporting you financially you must wear what she buys for
you. Is it so bad? I bet you look very smart in your uniform. Short trousers
are ideal outdoor wear, it is very healthy for a young boy to feel the elements
upon his skin. Similarly with bedtimes. 8.30 strikes me as a sensible bedtime
during the week when you have lessons the next day. Remember an hour before
midnight is worth two afterwards.
Matron
Older boys would be far better behaved if they were kept dressed as children in school short trousers as Michael was. My father remarried when I was 14 and I became the stepsister to an obnoxious 16 year old boy who had no respect for authority. Daddy was headmaster of a boys prep boarding school in Wales (this was the early 1970s) and promptly put my stepbrother into the school and into short trousers. He was kept in a class of 12 year olds for two years and wore shorts all the time, school holidays included.
When he was 18 he was sent to the senior school but kept in short trousers even though nearly all the other boys wore longs. He stayed at the school for three years and for the last two years was the only boy in his class still in shorts despite being five years older than the other pupils.
Short trousers made him respectful and obedient and he did as he was told without question. Although over two years older, he was always deferential towards me and accepted my authority in all matters. In his twenties he was still sometimes punished by my father by being made to wear short trousers for a weekend which caused him great humiliation particularly in front of my girlfriends who loved teasing him and treating him like a naughty little boy.
Ms Wendy Kirkbright
Dear Wendy
Thank you for your most interesting letter. Your father obviously understood the value of short trousers as a means of imposing discipline. Perhaps you could write again letting us know if you played any part in your step-brother's punishment and how old was your brother when he was finally allowed out of short trousers?
Matron
Matron
My stepbrother was punished by being made to wear short trousers up to the age of 27. He was made to wear them with his prep school uniform so he looked like an overgrown schoolboy. Typically he was kept like this for a weekend or two but he also had to spend two whole weeks of a family holiday in his punishment clothes when he was 24.
He hated being teased by my girlfriends and his face would go crimson with shame and embarrassment at their comments but he always managed to stave off the tears. He would often sneak off to his bedroom when my friends arrived at the house but I would go upstairs and drag him down to the sitting room by his ear so they could have a good laugh at his expense. They used to really torment him.
My father initiated most of his punishments and often took my step-brother out in his school uniform complete with short trousers several times during these periods.He often attracted strange looks as he undeniably looked too old to be dressed as he was. When we were on our family holiday we went to the cinema and for walks in the local park with him in his short trousers with his blazer and cap. He hated the humiliation but it certain made him well behaved. He looked very sweet and angelic.
Ms Wendy Kirkbright
Dear Wendy
Thank you for writing again and giving us a further insight into your fathers treatment of your step-brother. If the ultimate outcome was that of a well disciplined, well behaved male then it was all worth while and you played your part in achieving this. A little bit of teasing is character building is it not?
Matron
It is absolutely correct for Michael to be kept in neat grey school shorts. They are very smart for the older teenage boy and help to make him realise he is not mature as yet.
ReplyDeleteShort trousers should be requisite for all school boys until the age of eighteen.
ReplyDeleteThere is something about grey flannel shorts. They are not like casual shorts. Somehow they make a boy feel young regardless of age. This is particularly the case when very short and fitting. It makes the boy feel vulnerable. So when I wore my grey shorts in my teens it really felt like I was a little boy under strict control.
ReplyDeleteMy mother used to tell me that as soon as I cannot buy grey shorts in your size you will not have to wear them. The problem with that was that one could buy grey school shorts with a 36 inch waist and when I was eighteen my waist size was 30 inches. Indeed in in my early twenties my waist size was 32 inches.
ReplyDeleteThus my entire teenage years were spent in tiny school grey flannel short trousers.
I am still surprised at how my mother got away with dressing me the way she did. I did not own a single pair of long trousers until I was in my twenties. Grey flannel shorts, denim hot pants and denim shortalls, corduroy shorts even velvet and satin shorts for best. In private I also had to wear a plaid skirt and even a school gingham dress.
DeleteWhat did you have to wear at bedtimes? My mother dressed me in girls pink flowery pyjamas foryears.I was taut at home so never went out much so stayed in pyjamas.
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ReplyDeleteI was always told that I should not dress older than my age, that I was still a young boy. A little school gingham dress or tiny plaid skirt was entirely appropriate attire for me.
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