Dear Matron
I wore short trousers at 17 because my mother demanded it. I went to a small private boys boarding school in East Anglia in the 1960's which I attended as a day boy as it was only a few miles from where we lived. Short trousers were compulsory for all boys up to and including Fifth Form (that is, 16+ years old). Nearly all Sixth Form boys wore long trousers but this was left to the discretion of mother who decided to keep me dressed in shorts, because, much to her disappointment, I had to repeat the Fourth Form.
I wore shorts at all times, not just for school but on weekends and during the school holidays. Outside of school I usually wore school uniform which included a red blazer and a cap.
The wearing of school caps was compulsory wear for all boys in the Sixth Form except prefects. Since I was not a prefect, I wore a cap up until I left school at 19. We wore red caps with two yellow concentric rings. and the standard grey turnover top knee socks with two red bands on the turnover and looked the archetypal schoolboy.
From the age of 16, my mother kept my legs (and my pubic region) hairless by waxing because she preferred me to be like that, I protested that I was being teased but mother ignored me, insisting upon me having smooth legs. I often felt embarrassed and humiliated having to wear short trousers but as a dutiful son meekly complied, but from about the age of 17, I not only resented wearing them but I was bullied for doing so. I would get false compliments about how smart I looked in my short trousers and school uniform and comments about what a good little boy I was. These remarks always gave me a sense of shame, for which 17-year-old likes being told that he looked, “sweet and boyish.”
After I left school and up to the age of 25 I was regularly dressed in short trousers and school uniform by my mother. This could be anything from a few days to a whole month. My mothers logic was that if I insisted on behaving like a naughty little boy I should be dressed like one. It was of course, humiliating and I felt timid and childish but my mother insisted that it was perfectly acceptable for a boy in his teens or early twenties to be dressed in very short trousers, school knee length turnover top socks, and school blazer and cap.
I remained at home studying for a degree by means of a home study correspondence course. My mother did not want me to attend university as this would mean my gaining a measure of independence and a loosening of her control. By having me take a home study course I could remain in the house completely under her influence and discipline. Consequently, throughout this time it was easy for her to dress me in short trousers and school uniform as a punishment.
The frequency and duration of these punishments increased rather than diminished with age. It was as though my mother wanted to instil in me that despite my advancing years I was still only a little boy.
At the end of the three and half years of home study, I started working in an office. I was never sent to work in short trousers but over the next two years, my mother continued to impose the punishment at home and for some trips outside of the house. The only difference was that now during a punishment period I would be dressed by my mother in my short trousers and school uniform as soon as I arrived home from work and would spend the early evenings, weekends, and some holidays like this.
Throughout my time in school uniform, my mother's little boy rules also included early bedtimes. From my teens up to the age of 21 my bedtime was 8 pm, then, after my 21st I was allowed to stay up an extra hour and not put to bed until 9 pm although bedtime would often be earlier if I was considered to have been naughty. if my mother were having visitors and wanted me out of the way I would often be put to bed as early as 6.30 pm. I was never allowed to stay up late - that was for grown-ups. On such occasions, I was bathed by my mother and put into my pyjamas ready to greet her guests before immediately being told to say goodnight and sent up to bed.
Up to the age of 25, I was regularly taken by my mother to a nearby school outfitters to get new items of school uniform including my standard grey school short trousers. I would be taken in school uniform and would have to try on several pairs of shorts in the changing room. With each new pair, I would then have to parade in front of my mother and the female shop assistants for their comments. This would also be seen by other customers, usually with small boys and their sisters, who would often smirk and smile at the sight of an obviously much older boy still in short trousers.
My mother never hid my age from the shop assistants and would explain that I had to be dressed as a little boy because I persisted in behaving like one. The assistants were always very helpful to my mother and seemed to enjoy kitting me out in my school uniform and new pyjamas. The owner of the shop - a middle-aged woman - would supervise and would comment on what a smart schoolboy I was and how sweet I looked in short trousers. She, nor any of her assistants, ever queried with my mother as to why a man in his twenties was wearing such a juvenile outfit, rather, they appeared to be in full agreement with my mother choices.
My mother did not allow me to go out with girls and I was allowed no contact with the opposite sex. Little boys, after all, did not have girlfriends. We did, however, attend church each Sunday and I sometimes helped tidy the church after the service. It was on such occasion that I became friendly with Wendy who also helped tidy the church with her mother. Wendy was 17 but still a schoolgirl. In order to prevent any chance of a relationship developing my mother invited Wendy and her mother over for afternoon tea one Saturday afternoon and I had to serve the tea in my school uniform and short trousers before being changed into my blue and white striped pyjamas in front of Wendy and her mother.
My mother explained that I was being sent to bed early for being naughty. Wendy obviously found my appearance in short trousers then pyjamas highly amusing and to this day refuses to take me seriously and teases me dreadfully asking if I have been a good little boy and is it nearly my bedtime.
I found the whole experience of my youth and adolescence disturbing and now I am alone after mother passed away, I find it difficult to live a normal life and find myself wishing she was still here to help me even though I resented the authority she imposed upon me for so many years.
Can you please advise Matron?
Yours
Timothy Watkins
I was taken by my mother to a school outfitters when I was 18 and arrived in long trousers but left in a full prep school uniform including short grey trousers and turnover top schoolboy socks and school blazer and cap. It was the first time I had worn short trousers since I left Prep school at 13 but having failed by A Levels my mother decided I would now be educated at home and would have to wear short trousers at all times.
ReplyDeleteThe humiliation I felt in the school outfitters were dreadful and the young male shop assistant seemed highly amused that an older boy was being returned to shorts.
I am afraid I have no sympathy, your mother was quite correct to act as she did. Failing your exams is typical of the lazy behaviour of disobedient boys. Behave as a little boy, be punished as a little boy has always been my motto. I trust your mother has imposed a bedtime spanking regime suitable for a little boy too? She can contact me any time for advice on how to maintain discipline.
DeleteThis letter is a reproduction from the excellent, but long gone Pyjama Punishment Monthly to which I was a regular contributor. I hope Timothy did manage to find a female to put him back into short trousers and tuck him into bed early like the little boy he clearly was. Lots of males desire a mummy figure to control their life for them, being told what to do and when to do it satisfies a male desire to be subservient to a female authority figure whether that be mummy, aunty, nanny or whoever is willing to take on the role.
DeleteTimothy: My mother has me at home also and her guests often hear me getting a walloping with her slipper at my bedtime. Bedtimes have gone backwards as I got older.
ReplyDeleteMrs. Good. You and my mother have the same thoughts on the raising of boys.
ReplyDeleteA well deserved regime Indeed she was very generous with her bedtimes Bed no later than 5 every day would have been more fitting
ReplyDeleteJohn, I hope mummy does not see your comment. She might think 5:00 p.m. is better for me.
ReplyDeleteMaybe I should have a word with her and make sure your bedtime is adjusted to 5 or even earlier.
DeleteYes Sir.
DeleteNaturally the young man should be kept in brief shorts, his mother is quite within her rights. I would go further and make him wear a short plaid skirt at home with frilly panties, white pelerine socks and Mary Jane sandals.
ReplyDeleteOh My Mr. Miniboy. Very humiliating, and at least he is only wearing it at home
DeleteMr. Miniboy. If you wish you can contact me at David19inbed@yahoo.com
DeleteFor practical purposes in the summer the young man should wear a school gingham dress, panties white pelerine socks and his Mary Jane's. If he has been naughty then a smack bottom is in order followed up by being put in nappies and plastic pants under his gingham dress.
ReplyDeleteSounds ok for home. I am luck Mummy puts me in shorts when taking me out
DeleteThen surely that takes it a long way from short trouser discipline? It becomes petticoat punishment with a degree of ab treatment does it not?
ReplyDeleteYou are right Wincy I have wandered away from the subject, my apologies. The petticoating was rare for me, but the short trouser discipline most certainly was not. I was kept in very brief grey flannel shorts right until I left home, alongside shortalls and very tiny hot pants length play shorts.
ReplyDeleteWhen did you leave home MiniBoy? and why?
ReplyDeleteIn my twenties, ir in the summer I used to wear very brief denim hot pants.I moved to university to do my masters as a mature student. I would say that in my twenties I was a slim young man and wore my shorts as a matter of course apart from work. Even there in the summer I wore very brief denim hot pants. (I was a technician at a local polytechnic) so in the summer when no students were there I always wore shorts.
ReplyDeleteBefore I moved to take my masters I did my first degree as a mature student at a local university. When their I wore shorts all the time. I used to automatically put them on. Because I was always short of money in those days I wore what my mother gave me.
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ReplyDeleteMy mother has some pretty short and tight nylon shorts for me. She has me wear them at home mostly, but has had me in them when out of town.
ReplyDeleteI like the way Timothy has nice smooth waxed legs. Entirely appropriate for an older boy still in short shorts. He will not get ideas above his station.
ReplyDeleteI believe Timothy's mother ensures his whole body remains hairless.
DeleteAs she should
DeleteYes Timothy's mother likes to keep him as her little boy for as long as possible.
ReplyDeleteI do like the description of Timothy taken to the school outfitters. It reminds me of being taken to the outfitters myself. I always hoped that they would not have a pair of school shorts in my size. They always did, perfect fitting even when I was 16 years plus. Trying on my shorts in the shop and noting the knowing smiles of the assistants as I put on the tiny grey flannel shorts. Then the comments of the assistants, such as how neat my grey flannel shorts look on me, how they really suit the older boy etc. Then my mother always said he might as well leave them on for the walk home and I will take another five pairs.
ReplyDeleteHow very sensible of Mummy to continue until you were at least 16yo. What other "suitable clothing" were you made to wear into your mid to late teens?
DeleteWell when not in my formal school shorts I wore a variety of other clothes. Woolworths at the time sold these stretchy nylon shorts of a variety of very bright colours, such as red, navy etc. Those were pull ups with no flies and skin tight as they were designed to fit a child four years or more younger than me but my mother obtained several at a knock down price. She told me they are nice bright and breezy highly suitable as play shorts. I wore these up to my late teens. They left nothing to the imagination and were short enough to reveal a good portion of bare bottom.
ReplyDeleteOther play shorts popular with my mother were shortalls, also very short and unbelievably childish. Particularly due to the fact that I also had to wear white pelerine socks and Mary Jane sandals with the shortalls.
The most embarrassing was my best clothes. I had to wear a sailor suit again with Mary Jane sandals and white pelerine socks. The sailor suit was worn with satin or velvet hot pants. Though fortunately this outfit was only worn occasionally for weddings, when my aunt was visiting, church etc. Normally for semi formal occasions it was my short grey shorts which even at 15 or 16 years old was preferable.
Alongside my outfits were the childish treatment. Sitting cross legged on the floor, sometimes holding my mothers hand-even as a teenager. Smack bottoms and slapped legs. Very early bedtimes etc.
ReplyDeleteHow early were your bedtimes and what kind of pyjamas did your mummy make you wear.Holding mummys hand is a must for me otherwise I get a smacked bottom and put to bed. I am 22.
ReplyDeleteWell if I was a good boy it was 7.30pm during the week and 8.00pm weekends. If I misbehaved it was a smack bottom and put straight to bed. I wore a variety of night wear, striped winceyette pyjamas, nightshirt and nightie. The worst though I occasionally had to wear rompers nappies and plastic pants.
ReplyDeletehi miniboy you do sound if your are well disiplined early bedtimes ect
ReplyDeleteWas wondering how often your are spanked and what with as one adult spanked boy to another? just curious?